Today I want to talk to you about what happens when a woman loses her sex drive.
So this can happen as a result of having children, as the result of menopause, but whatever the causes, it creates tremendous stress in a relationship.
For women, when you lose your sex drive, all of your attention goes to everything else except for the needs of your husband. Men, when your wife, your girlfriend loses her sex drive, this wonderful person that you love that you had so much intimacy with, she changes. You wonder, are you ever going to feel that passion again. So this is a very challenging time in any relationship, and it requires a good heart-to-heart talk and sits down where you are speaking what needs to be spoken.
Do not sugarcoat it; you certainly can be gentle. But it is very important to speak your truth. And so men, if you are dealing with a wife, who is gone through menopause and she becomes what I call “flatline,” her sex drive is gone, she probably would be happy not to have sex again for the rest of her life. And yet you have made your marriage vows, and now you are wondering what are you going to do. You do not want to go out and get a massage with a happy ending; you do not want to have an affair, you want to make love to your wife and yet she is refusing it.
So, one of the things men, that you need to do is you need to be prepared for a storm. Just think of the woman as mother nature, and you need to be a very strong oak tree planted deeply, and you need to speak your heart to her. I recommend you take her out of the house, you sit in the park, or you get out into nature, you give her a gift, let her know how much you love her and that you need to have a very serious conversation with her. Realize it is going to create a crisis, but it can be called a healing crisis. You need to speak your heart to her that it is not okay with you, that sex is no longer a part of your life.
If your woman refuses to be sexual with you, then you are being challenged, and there are steps that you need to take to maintain your health and your well being.
Ladies, if you are one of those women that you’ve had children and you’re exhausted from working and taking care of the kids, or you are into menopause, and you don’t have a sex drive that is not acceptable for yourself as well as your partner. Our sexual energy is our life force energy; it is our passion. What needs to take place for you to find out how are you not taking care of yourself, do you need a day off where you away from the kids and the husband, do you need a bubble bath, do you need some time just with the girls. What is it that you need so that you can find your passion again?
For those of us who have gone through menopause, it is a state of mind; it is not out hormones that are driving out sex drive, it is our mind and our wisdom, telling us to be intimate is a good thing. And if you encourage yourself to make love with your partner, the first 5 or 10 minutes you may not even be present, but keep bringing yourself back to the fact that you’re choosing to make love and you desire to be present. Create maybe a sensual fantasy for yourself. And at the end of that lovemaking session, you will be surprised at how good you feel, and you will wonder why you haven’t done this before.
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So this is the key. Don’t rely on when you feel good about yourself, don’t rely on what you’ve lost 5 pounds, don’t rely on when you’re feeling amorous. Making love making an active part of your life at least once a week if not 2 or 3 times a week.